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Simple Rules for a Happy Marriage

Twenty-four years ago, I married the most wonderful man in the world.  He's smart, funny, strong in his religious convictions, a great dad to our kids, and we share the same goals.  We are experts only on our own marriage, but here are some thoughts that have worked for us:

1.  Always assume that the other person means well.  When I built the dog house in the basement, requiring John to remove the sliding door in order to get the doghouse to the backyard, he just smiled and thanked me for helping him. 

2. "Working" on your marriage means making play a priority.  We faithfully have a weekly date night.  When I spent over a month in the hospital, date night consisted of John bringing me real, non-hospital food and we'd watch a movie on the TV. 

3. Communication is key.  John has learned to understand "womenese".  I have learned to speak more directly.  We both know that if either one of us says, "We really should..." it means, "Would you please...?" 

4.  Do your share, which means don't keep score.  If you notice a job needs doing, do it.  John and I decided shortly after the birth of our first, that whoever smells the dirty diaper first, changes the baby.  It worked well for us.

5.  Don't complain about your spouse.  One of my pet peeves is hearing a woman complain about her husband, or vice versa.  John is my best friend.  He never complains about me.  I know he is human, and therefore must be imperfect, but he is perfect for me.

We have made so many memories over the past 24 years.  Sometimes, our path has taken unexpected twists and turns, but we have traveled the path together.  I'm looking forward to the next 24 years.

I love you, John!

Comments

  1. Pat BApril 25, 2011 at 9:09 PM

    Wonderful words of truth!

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  2. AnonymousJanuary 15, 2013 at 1:05 PM

    All sounds like common sense, but sadly often goes unheeded. Seems like nowadays, 24 years of marriage is practically unheard of. With your philosophy, sounds like you have many more years ahead together. :) [#TALU]

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  3. KerryJanuary 16, 2013 at 8:10 AM

    Great advice! Sounds like you have a wonderful man. We are both lucky in that department. =)

    TALU!

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